What are we so afraid of?
Hello Everyone:
I was thinking more about the topic of resistance and in particular, our resistance to our own feelings. It’s funny. Our feelings (or emotions) are rather benign in nature. They are derived from hormones and the like in our mid brain. They have no solid form such as a knife or gun. They do not have the power to kill us. And yet, so many of us find them intolerable and frightening; something to avoid at all cost. It’s as if we have associated feelings with life threatening events. Painful feelings can trigger our survival instincts, our flight or fight response just as if we were being chased by a hungry tiger. So what is this all about? What are we so afraid of?
I believe that we have lost trust in our very nature, our very design. We have lost confidence in our ability to tolerate, manage, and move through what ever emotional response we are having. Maybe some of you feel you never developed a sense of competency in this area. Maybe some of you feel you never learned or acquired the necessary coping skills when it comes to handling your own emotions. Maybe this is true; maybe not. Either way, I believe we came naturally equipped. All we need to do is to let go and feel…., the feelings work themselves out just fine without any additional anything. There really isn’t much for us to do. We just need to trust the natural process.
Somehow we’ve developed a lot of unrest in this. You may be scared that once you feel bad, you’ll never feel good again. This would be akin to getting a cold and believing that you’ll feel sick or cold-like forever. When you use this analogy, it all seems quite silly. We’ve all been ill enough times with common ailments to develop some trust in our bodies that our bodies will fight off the infection and we will feel better in a matter of time. The same goes with our feelings. We’ve all felt hurt, sadness, humiliation, loss, fear, and depression at various times in our lives. And with the exception of those unique circumstances when outside intervention is needed, we know these feelings pass. We know that the emotions come and go. We know we come out the other end. We’ve just need to regain trust in our human design.
So next time you have an emotion that you would rather avoid, remember to trust your self. Let go, feel the feeling. Know that the feeling will pass. In time, your spirits will lift. Your only job is to take care of yourself in the process. Be kind, patient and compassionate. Do things that provide you comfort and healing, just like you do when you have a cold. Your body will take care of the rest. And above all, trust.
Stay with me and engage in this conversation. Your voice has an impact. What are your thoughts on this subject?
We want to know because….Your life matters!
Take care and till next time,
Julie
For More Information on Julie Orlov Consulting, visit www.julieorlov.com
To add your contact information to our database, go to www.julieorlov.com/contactus
What are we so afraid of?
Hello Everyone:
I was thinking more about the topic of resistance and in particular, our resistance to our own feelings. It’s funny. Our feelings (or emotions) are rather benign in nature. They are derived from hormones and the like in our mid brain. They have no solid form such as a knife or gun. They do not have the power to kill us. And yet, so many of us find them intolerable and frightening; something to avoid at all cost. It’s as if we have associated feelings with life threatening events. Painful feelings can trigger our survival instincts, our flight or fight response just as if we were being chased by a hungry tiger. So what is this all about? What are we so afraid of?
I believe that we have lost trust in our very nature, our very design. We have lost confidence in our ability to tolerate, manage, and move through what ever emotional response we are having. Maybe some of you feel you never developed a sense of competency in this area. Maybe some of you feel you never learned or acquired the necessary coping skills when it comes to handling your own emotions. Maybe this is true; maybe not. Either way, I believe we came naturally equipped. All we need to do is to let go and feel…., the feelings work themselves out just fine without any additional anything. There really isn’t much for us to do. We just need to trust the natural process.
Somehow we’ve developed a lot of unrest in this. You may be scared that once you feel bad, you’ll never feel good again. This would be akin to getting a cold and believing that you’ll feel sick or cold-like forever. When you use this analogy, it all seems quite silly. We’ve all been ill enough times with common ailments to develop some trust in our bodies that our bodies will fight off the infection and we will feel better in a matter of time. The same goes with our feelings. We’ve all felt hurt, sadness, humiliation, loss, fear, and depression at various times in our lives. And with the exception of those unique circumstances when outside intervention is needed, we know these feelings pass. We know that the emotions come and go. We know we come out the other end. We’ve just need to regain trust in our human design.
So next time you have an emotion that you would rather avoid, remember to trust your self. Let go, feel the feeling. Know that the feeling will pass. In time, your spirits will lift. Your only job is to take care of yourself in the process. Be kind, patient and compassionate. Do things that provide you comfort and healing, just like you do when you have a cold. Your body will take care of the rest. And above all, trust.
Stay with me and engage in this conversation. Your voice has an impact. What are your thoughts on this subject?
We want to know because….Your life matters!
Take care and till next time,
Julie
For More Information on Julie Orlov Consulting, visit www.julieorlov.com
To add your contact information to our database, go to www.julieorlov.com/contactus
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