Julie Orlov’s “Your Life Matters”

What to do when you need more, less, or different?

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• Author: Julie
• October 23, 2007
• Category: Attachments and Letting Go, Relationships, Living Life as a Journey

Hello Everyone:

I want to continue our discussion from last week’s blog “Acceptance does not mean yes”. I alluded to the idea that once you decide that something is not working for you, there are even more choices to explore. Once you’ve accepted something “as is” and have decided that the “as is” does not meet your needs, what next? The next steps are fairly straightforward, though easier said than done.

1. Once you know what isn’t working for you, get clear on what it is that you truly want or need. Take your time with this one. Come to terms with what is acceptable and what is not acceptable to you in your situation. At the end of this reflection, you should have a clear understanding of what you want, what you will accept, and what you cannot live with.

2. Next you’ll need to decide if you want to make a request for change or seek your needs and wants elsewhere. It is up to you to decide if you want to make the effort to request change. In the end, you may conclude that this option is not desirable, or maybe you have already made repeated requests for change with unsatisfactory results; thus, this option may now be exhausted. It is in this phase that we are usually hardest on ourselves. Sometimes we believe that we try too hard or too many times to make something work. Sometimes we retreat too quickly out of fear and feel like we gave up too easily. Regardless of where you fall on this continuum, be kind to yourself. No one is perfect. No one lets go of something or someone without struggle. No one is courageous all the time. Do the best you can. Remember, if you make a choice that is not in your best interest, the universe will give you another chance at another time. Our opportunities for learning never stop.

3. If you choose to make a request for change, do so in a direct, loving, and powerful way. This topic probably warrants a blog posting all its’ own, so stay tuned. If you choose to let go and get your needs met elsewhere, do this as well in a direct, loving, and powerful way (yes I know, another big topic, another posting).

4. Lastly, be true to yourself. Live your life fully. Don’t let your fears around what if’s stop you. Get present to what is….this is where your power lives.

Stay with me and engage in this conversation. Your voice has an impact. What are your thoughts on this subject?

We want to know because….Your life matters!

Take care and till next time,

Julie

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